It’s difficult being a sexually active girl in the Sri Lankan society. Especially when Sri Lanka is a sex-deprived country for the unmarried due to its customs and traditions that it might as well be unhealthy to a point now. While men can fool around with multiple women as they please, it is not the same came for
us girls. If a girl has had multiple relationships or multiple sexual partners, the onlookers take no delay in labeling that girl with a number of different God-forsaken terms. It is unfair really, but we cannot fight it because it was Eve who tempted Adam to sin. It is really the fault of the first human woman that the rest of the women race has to suffer the consequences.
No matter how many foolish relationships you have been in your past or how many funtastic one night stands you’ve had, there comes a day in your life when the Prince Charming, written on your fate comes on a horse with a shining armour to carry you to his castle, not knowing his evil (step) mother would still be reigning. It’s this day you decide that you’ve had it with the boy toy population but to settle with the man sent from the Gods above, as written on the books.
The time has arrived for you to meet the evil (step) mother. She sits in a grand reclined chair, wearing an ‘Osariya’ and the ‘mala hatha’, with the keys of the house and the estate tied to her clothing and you appear in front of her wearing a miniskirt and a spaghetti strap blouse. It is the moment you realize you should have invested in some decent clothing when you had the chance. However, after talking only ten words with her (which she allowed you to talk), you come to the realization that you have decided to join a wrong type of family, yet the rays beaming out of your man are too strong you decide to stay for the bumpy ride anyway.
It is not easy being a modern type of girl marrying into a traditional family in Sri Lanka. They want a saint of a girl to wed their precious son. Despite all the mistakes in your past, you know you would always love and cherish this man of your dreams till death parts you two apart. But this is not enough for your mother in law. They want someone to showcase to the rest of their aristocrat friends and relations. But you only wanted to marry someone and give and receive love unconditionally for the rest of your life.
The day has arrived. Your mother-in-law has finally decided to take you into the family amidst all the drama and chaos because the son really wants to be with you. On the wedding day, you wanted to wear a strapless, deep V-neck dress. But that is not going to happen. You are forced with an ‘Osariya’ on yourself, on which you cannot even move your feet two centimeters apart. The make-up session starts at 2 a.m. and all the heavy jewelry are forced on your lean body. However, you barely make it through the end of the ceremony. The worst part is not over yet; the honeymoon! Many of the married couples look forward to the honeymoon night after marriage. But you know the mother-in-law will come the following morning with the cock on one hand and a divorce attorney on the other to check for those blood stains on the white sheet. But you out-smart your mother in law because you ran to the blood bank a few days before the wedding and borrowed a few milliliters of blood to stain those sheets. You will survive the whole drama but will have to anticipate for much more.
Girl-to-girl advice; try to stay as much away from the parents if they come to interfere in your married life. Time heals everything. If you can’t get rid of them, win their hearts and be the good daughter-in-law. You might have to make certain changes to your lifestyle. But there’s a price behind every happy marriage and that price here is changing your ways and sacrifice for good.